Sex appears to be glamorous, particularly the way it is portrayed by media, where couples jump into bed without talking about the outcomes. However, this does not happen in reality. Sometimes sex can be awkward and not exactly go as we intended it to.
You want to have sex because…?
You might have overheard discussions that might make you think everybody is involved in this activity except you. In fact, that isn’t accurate. Sometimes people exaggerate or misinterpret their sexual practices.
Give thought to the reason behind why you want to have sex. It can be enjoyable when the couple feels like getting involved in sexual intercourse instead of one partner.
Many people wait because they don’t want to stress themselves with the risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
Whereas the others just do not assume themselves ready. If a person feels that he/she should wait until they feel satisfied with the consequences sex might bring, that’s perfectly fine.
Understanding how sex “works” is important!
Sexual intercourse can be a puzzle in itself, particularly from the anatomical point of view. It’s helpful to understand your body before involving in any sexual practices with your partner. It’s easier to consider that your companion knows how to do it and will be able to know how you want to do it. But possibly sex might be as new for them as it is for you. It’s better to wait until you become sure about what you are actually doing.
How easy it is for you to communicate with your partner?
Sex can be a tough topic when it comes to talking. Almost every person faces difficulty opening up about sex. But jumping into bed you need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner. Both of you need to be realistic.
These are a few things you might want to clear out:
- Do we really want to have sex or, are we feeling pressured to do it?
- What’s our relationship status right now? Do we see a future might together?
- Are we in love?
- What birth control method will we use?
- What is your partner’s STD status in case they had sex before?
- What will happen if a pregnancy occurs?
- What happens in case of break up?
All these issues can make anyone start to panic. It can be helpful to talk to someone you trust, who knows you properly. It might also benefit talking with a health expert, like a mental health counselor, or your physician.